Grief

We get attached to things, people, and circumstances.

And when those things change, we grieve the loss of the attachment we once knew. The essence of any loss is missing the good feelings of those attachments.

That’s why we usually focus on the positive when thinking about what we’ve lost. For example, when we lose a loved one, we reminisce on the good times – to the point that we can’t even imagine our lives without the person. We feel like we’ll never experience good times like that again.

But sometimes relationships are complicated. Instead of fixating on the good, we focus on the negative, trapping us in guilt, blame, or shame.

It’s hard letting go…

It is tough as human beings to let go, even though we’re expected to socially. We’re expected to be productive, so schools and work dismiss the profound impact grief can have on us. You might get a short bereavement period…

But co-workers and supervisors aren’t trained to help you process your feelings, and friends and family aren’t always able to bring you solace and comfort.

And moving forward…

When you can’t imagine your life without your loved one, you often put a hold on dreaming of the future or imagining a better life.

Or you might feel like you’re not properly honoring your loved one if you’re NOT consumed by despair or sadness.

When you’re grieving, it can feel like you’re doing something wrong when you start “moving on” with your life or resuming interest in the things that once brought you joy and fulfillment.

Breaking through the shield of grief…

When you’re grieving and in despair, you’re suffering… so it can be hard to see and feel your love for them in your heart. Instead, your attention is on your life’s sadness and lack of color.

But it’s by opening your heart to love that you can once again feel your loved one’s presence. They’re no longer in a physical form but in a form that can resonate with your being – in your words and soul.

Grief work is a gift you can give yourself to avoid getting stuck in a place of suffering and despair.

Therapy can help you move forward.

In therapy, you’ll learn to dream again instead of letting grief cement your feet to the ground.

It’s about honoring the love you received and continuing your connection with your loved one through the power of love and consciousness.

Like a work of art, your grief needs mindful attendance and patience. Be kind to yourself, especially at the beginning when the loss feels surreal – like a rug was pulled from underneath your feet.

Your heart needs careful attention, so don’t expect a quick recovery or a definite timeline for healing. But when you accept the grief, welcoming it with open arms, you can give yourself the time you need to mend your broken heart.

To grow, we must step outside our comfort zone. When we go through a profound loss of a loved one, we are definitely out of our comfort zone. In therapy, your character will grow, and you’ll learn more about your ability to heal.

In therapy, you’ll learn mindfulness practices that help you access your inner being and support you through the heaviness, stress, anxiety, and depression.

There are so many ways to honor the loves we lost. Moving forward and stepping into the unknown territory of grief work is the first step.

You don’t have to go through this loss alone.

And you don’t have to “plow forward,” repressing the loss and sadness you rightfully feel.

Therapy is a safe place to honor the love and connection you shared with your loved one. I’m here to support you through this difficult, profound experience.

Don’t wait any longer…

Call me today to schedule your free 15-minute consultation: (510) 605-0688.